In a dramatic episode of 90 Day Fiancé: Before the 90 Days, aired on January 26, Josko faced severe backlash after admitting to filming an intimate encounter with Vanja without her knowledge or permission. The incident was revealed during a heated discussion at the Tell All event, where Josko joined virtually from Croatia. Initially dismissive and defensive, Josko eventually conceded that he had violated Vanja's privacy and trust. Despite his multiple apologies, the damage to their relationship was evident as Vanja expressed deep emotional pain over the betrayal. The audience and host Shawn Robinson strongly supported Vanja, emphasizing the gravity of Josko's actions.
The revelation came as a shock to many viewers who have followed Vanja and Josko's tumultuous romance. Josko initially attempted to justify his actions by claiming he had discussed the idea with Vanja beforehand. However, Vanja tearfully contradicted this, stating that she was completely unaware of any such conversation. The group gathered at the Tell All unanimously condemned Josko’s behavior, leading him to acknowledge his mistake. “In my mind, I thought there was consent, but it wasn’t there,” Josko admitted, adding that the incident had caused him significant guilt and regret.
Josko’s apology, though heartfelt, seemed to come too late for Vanja. She explained that being intimate is a significant aspect of her relationships, and the violation of her trust deeply affected her. Throughout the season, Vanja had been candid about her trust issues and her cautious approach to intimacy. Her decision to open up to Josko was based on what she believed was mutual respect and understanding. Yet, this incident shattered her faith in him. “It’s heartbreaking because I give my all in a relationship, and then the other person doesn’t want to pursue things with me anymore,” Vanja said, visibly distraught.
Vanja’s journey on 90 Day Fiancé began with Božo, another Croatian man who unexpectedly friend-zoned her upon her arrival. While both men left her feeling frustrated, Josko’s betrayal felt particularly personal. “Being intimate with somebody for me is a big deal,” Vanja emphasized, highlighting the significance of trust in her relationships. Despite Josko’s attempts to salvage some dignity by praising Vanja’s qualities, it was clear that the breach of trust could not be easily mended. The episode underscored the importance of respecting boundaries and the profound impact of violating someone’s trust, especially in matters as sensitive as intimacy.
Josko’s admission and subsequent apology marked a turning point in the couple’s narrative. While Josko recognized the gravity of his actions and offered sincere remorse, Vanja’s emotional scars ran deep. The incident serves as a stark reminder of the need for clear communication and mutual respect in any relationship. For Vanja, the experience has likely reinforced her commitment to being selective about whom she chooses to be vulnerable with in the future.