A man recently took to Reddit to share his decision of "refusing" to go on a ski trip with his girlfriend's sister and her newborn child. This decision was based on his concerns that the addition of an infant would significantly increase both the stress and the expense of the trip.

Annual Vacation Tradition

For the past four or five years, the man and his girlfriend have been taking a vacation with her older sister and boyfriend every year. Their preferred activities include skiing in the Rockies, visiting national parks, or going hiking and camping. They have managed to keep the trips affordable by focusing on the things that matter to them and having a similar taste in activities. These yearly trips hold a special place in his heart and have created lasting memories.

Unexpected Pregnancy

About a week ago, the man learned that his girlfriend's sister was pregnant but still wanted to participate in the yearly trip, including flights, skiing, and all. The sister has now narrowed down the options to either Colorado in September or January for skiing and has presented much more expensive accommodation, rental car, and flight options for traveling with a baby. The baby is due in July, which means the child will be 2-5 months old during the trip.The man suggested looking into going to a state park or somewhere in the Smokeys for a 3-day weekend trip to test the waters of vacationing with a baby. However, he was met with the "I'm going to be a strong mom" speech, indicating that having a baby would not stop her from doing things.

Financial and Stress Concerns

Later, the man and his girlfriend discussed the matter further. He expressed his concerns about flying halfway across the country with a newborn, paying more for the trip, being able to do less and enjoy it less, using his vacation time, and feeling super stressed. He believes that the parents-to-be are being selfish and irresponsible by forcing a newborn to fly and endure hikes and cold temperatures.While his girlfriend agrees with his concerns, she still wants to take the group trip. The man wonders if this trip is more of a family obligation or to feed his girlfriend's sister's ego.

Commentary from Others

Commenters on the Reddit post have expressed their opinions. Some say the mom-to-be seems "delusional" for suggesting a ski trip so far in advance of the birth. One commenter wrote that it may indicate that she is still in denial about what pregnancy, birth, and motherhood entail. They believe that both their lives will change dramatically and that she is being unrealistic. Another commenter, who is a new mom, shared that even with an "easy" baby, she would not be flying across the country for a ski trip in the next few months.This situation has raised questions about the balance between family obligations and personal well-being during pregnancy and the early days of motherhood. It highlights the challenges and sacrifices that come with starting a family and the importance of considering everyone's needs and feelings.