A woman found herself in a dilemma when she asked her fiancé to trim his wedding guest list from an overwhelming 400 people to a more manageable 200. This decision sparked a heated debate between the couple, revealing their different perspectives on the ideal wedding size and guest list.

The Battle Over Wedding Guest Lists - A Woman's Struggle

Initial Disagreement

The 31-year-old bride-to-be and her 32-year-old fiancé began making their wedding guest list together but quickly butted heads. The groom-to-be, a "very social guy" with a decade of making friends and business connections in the restaurant industry, had a list nearly four times the size of the bride-to-be's initial 45-50 people. She explained that she easily gets over-stimulated and needs to prepare for big group interactions, usually lasting only a few hours before needing to recharge.For her, an intimate wedding celebration was ideal. But her fiancé saw the wedding as an opportunity to "shake hands and kiss babies" with many of the people on his list, including those she had never met or even heard of before.

The Cost vs. Comfort Dilemma

Although the woman had a hard time justifying paying $250+ per person for people she didn't know and her fiancé barely interacted with, she emphasized that it wasn't about the money. It was about the number of people making her uncomfortable. The groom-to-be offered to cut down both lists to a total of 400 people, but that still seemed too large to her. The thought of a wedding with that many strangers made her physically ill.Working in the food and beverage industry, she was already extremely outgoing and social at work, and a wedding was an already highly emotional day. She didn't want to add to the stress by feeling overwhelmed.

Defense and Misunderstandings

When she tried to explain her feelings to her fiancé, he became "really defensive" and felt like she didn't care about "people who are important to him." She reiterated that it wasn't about not caring about his friendships but that some of his reasons for inviting people seemed childish or irrelevant.Ideally, she would like a wedding with 150 people, while he wanted closer to 500. She thought she could handle 250 without a full panic attack, but the thought of being around 200+ strangers and being the center of attention made her want to hide.Reddit users in the comments section mostly agreed with the woman, saying she wasn't in the wrong for wanting to cut the list. However, they were more focused on the cost than her comfort. Some also pointed out that the groom-to-be might be seeing the wedding as a networking opportunity for his new business, without considering her feelings.