In this holiday season, a man has taken a firm stance on the matter of exchanging "expensive" gifts. His decision has led to significant family drama. On Friday, December 6th, on Reddit's "Am I the A——?" forum, he explained that this is the second year his older brother, Liam, organized a Secret Santa gift exchange for around 20 family members. There was no budget set last year, and everyone was required to submit a wishlist with no deviations allowed. Some people went overboard with their requests, such as trips to Bali and designer bags. The man's recipient, Eliza, had one of those extensive lists, and he could only afford a $60 gift card, which didn't go over well. The fallout was that Eliza was unhappy, and the whole thing turned into chaos as some lists were followed while others weren't.

Brother's New Rule and the Man's Reaction

This year, Liam added a new rule to the exchange in an attempt to improve the system. Everyone would still make a wishlist, but participants would be paired with "matching budgets" - luxury givers with luxury listers. However, the catch was that if the random draw didn't line up perfectly, they would have to re-roll names or manually swap within the group. The man put his foot down against these "absurd rules" and told his brother that the system was too complicated. He suggested returning to a more traditional Secret Santa without wishlists and with a budget cap to allow for more thoughtful gift-giving. He also admitted to accusing his brother of "just trying to hoard gifts" instead of creating a fun and heartfelt family experience.