In the world of weddings, brides often face various decisions that can test their friendships and wedding plans. One such bride, getting married in August 2025, found herself in a predicament when she invited a long-time friend to be a bridesmaid but soon began to regret it.

A Bride's Inner Struggle over a Bridesmaid

Initial Decision and Its Rationale

The bride explained in a post on the "Wedding" forum that she needed an equal number of bridesmaids and groomsmen. With her fiancé already having five groomsmen and her having only four bridesmaids (her two sisters, sister-in-law, and a close friend), she invited a 10-year-old friend to join the bridal party. At the time, it seemed like a logical choice as it would make the numbers even. However, she was wary as they sometimes had disagreements and her friend was extremely anxious.

She wrote, "I was wary about choosing this particular friend because we sometimes have disagreements and she is extremely anxious, therefore if I do anything she doesn’t like it’s a massive, massive deal. She asks me to be more open and honest with her but I can’t because she tells her partner everything (which is totally fine), but then he goes and gossips and spreads rumors about my partner and I."

Approaching the Wedding Date and Regrets

As the wedding date drew near, the bride's doubts grew. She said, "I basically don’t trust her and I always feel like I have to be so careful about her. She’s been my friend for over 10 years and if I didn’t ask her to be a bridesmaid she would probably be really petty and spread more rumors." The gossipy friend had denied spreading rumors, but the bride didn't believe her.

She continued, "I don’t know how else it happened. If I ask her to stop being a bridesmaid I believe she would try and turn all of our shared friends against me, and her partner would be angry and malicious."

The Decision to Give One More Chance

Now, the bride is torn and frustrated. She decided to give her friend one more chance without telling her. If any more gossip or rumors came back to her from her friend, she would ask her to step down. She said, "I think I’m going to give her one more chance (without telling her) and if any gossip or rumors about me come back to me that are from her, then I will ask her to step down. I don’t think it may be wise to just ask her out of nowhere."